Lockdown is taking a toll over the long-distance relationships. Long-term relationships have been difficult to deal with, and the ongoing epidemic has only aggravated the situation. “We are both locked up in our homes, I remember telling him very small things, like before.” said Gaziabad resident Vaishnavi who has been in love with Saksham Yadav for five years. They met in college for the first time and then have been together ever since. We were committed to tea and evening trips during our time on the north campus together, he said.
The epidemic has been particularly difficult in relationships that have not been far from the beginning, but have been transformed into one, using the conditions provided. Saksham Yadav who returned to his hometown, Farrukhabad said that he was not a long-distance relationship, they were all in college, and after college they lived in Delhi NCR and surrounding areas. We usually met daily or at least weekly. It was good but then the first lock happened, they hoped all this would end soon, it didn’t happen. Some days are difficult, but now they are dealing with it.
An unexpected epidemic brought about change, which took a little overhaul. Consistent with this Vaishnavi adds, “We remember so much fitness, we can call each other every day, five to ten minutes at least. Just to meet, we call each other a video every day, or just a minute. These are difficult times, but we hope to end them all together. Hope makes travel easier. ”
One can think; it should be good for people in long-distance relationships from the beginning. Here, it is important to understand that, meeting once a month was a big thing for those people, something they used to expect. The epidemic has taken that. Shivani Nagar (28 Changed Name) 28, who has been married for 9 years, says, “I last met my boyfriend in January 2020. He does not live in India but made it a point for me to come to India every 3 months to be with me. We got into a closure and he hasn’t arrived since. I feel like we’re separated. There is not much more to talk about. We just do good morning and night good traditionally. ”
The boundaries set by the epidemic have changed the mood and attitude of the relationship. She also said that the daily text messages and five minutes of video calls, which are days that feel like work. Refreshing emoji and I-love-you’s diminished. For more than a month they have not said I love you, or sent kisses, or hearts to each other. There are days when she feels like the emotional tension in their relationship is over. These days she finds herself tempted to accept the suggestions of some of her friends who wanted to date her.
Psychologist Pulkit Sharma suggests, “Such feelings should not be confused with loneliness in a relationship. In such difficult times, when there is not much to do, people are bored with everything. They are bored with their health and the boring daily routine. Loneliness and crepes at work and exercise, with the availability of limited options. Similarly, the relationship will be both boring and boring. But at the end of the day, communication is the key to any relationship. So empathizing with each other’s feelings can be very helpful. ”
Faridabad resident Manoj Sharma (Name changed), who met her boyfriend online for the disease last year, feels, “We only met once when the boundaries dropped, and at that meeting it was as if I knew him forever. After that the lock happened again, stuck in Jaipur and I in Faridabad. But we kept the relationship going, talking on the phone, but not every day because it is important to give each other space, as these times are really hard for everyone. The last thing that moved us was thinking about the future. All that we are going to do after things will start to open up. It brings a spark of hope. ”
Here’s how to deal with distance:
1. Express all feelings, good or bad. Regular communication is probably the best thing we can do now.
2. Schedule online dates and make time for yourself. Do fun things together with video calls.
3. Appreciate your partner’s presence in your life by sending them good texts, videos and assessing their physical and mental health.
4. Keep the tradition of saying those ‘I love you’ and mushy emoji. Do not bail out suddenly with the annoying text like that of GM and GN.
5.Play online games, watch your favorite OTT together, whatever brings you together.