Attentive listening helps teens open up: Study. Listening techniques are involved such as eye contact, nodding and using keywords to commend openness helps teens when they admit to misbehavior and share hurt feelings with their parents, a new study has shown.
Researchers at the University of Reading and Haifa asked children aged 1001 13 to 16 to watch a formal discussion between parent and adolescent about a difficult situation, in which the parent uses different body language and listening behavior in different contexts.
Participants who watched the versions when the parent seemed to listen were saying that they would feel better about themselves as teenagers and would be able to reopen their feelings in the future.
Research, which first looked at the quality of listening in isolation from other parenting techniques, showed that being more involved in listening makes teens feel more authentic and connected to the parent.
Dr Netta Weinstein, associate professor of psychology and clinical psychology at the University of Reading, who led the study, said:
He said that they all know that listening to someone talk about their problems is an effective way to reassure them and build a connection. However, so far little attention has been given to the quality of that listening, and to the difference it makes.
This study also has shown that in the parent-adolescent relationships, quiet listening to a child when he or she shows that he or she is valued and that too valued for his or her integrity has a profound effect on his or her willingness to open up to his or her feelings.
In a study that was published in the Journal of Experimental Child Psychology, even split-ups of teens, both men and women, were recruited. The team found that effective listening is equally important for all participants.
The first scene of the video chat reveals a young man admitting to his mother that he had tried to get angry and embarrassed, and in the second he told his mother that he was rejected by his peers after refusing to vote and felt hurt.
Each video feature had a version in which the parent listened intently, and another in which they seemed more distracted and used less eye contact.
Dr. Weinstein said that with such a large group of participants, it is encouraging to see that the active listening helped the whole world during their teenage years.
He said that the study also has important implications for the well-being of young people. Participants said the good listening model seen in the videos would lead to better well-being. While they do not know how often expectations meet in reality.